I’m an expert at procrastination, although in later years I’ve become much better in recognising procrastination when I ‘see’ it. My very special combination of words usually was, and still sometimes is, ‘When I …’. This is a very dangerous combination of words because it removes control from myself and places it into an item, or someone else.

When I get this car I will finally be popular.

When I have one million in my bank account I will be happy.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t seem to work this way. I’m sure we all have these ideas with some alterations in the perceived solution. One of my personal favourites is how efficient I would be once I acquired two computer screens. Boy-oh-boy would I be productive. Finally would I be able to produce all those documents that I for so long had wanted to write, but been hampered by the limited computer desktop space.

Seriously, it’s NOT the desktop space that is the limiting factor. I have these ‘episodes’ quite often and they seem to slip past my procrastination radar all too often. Most recently I got it into my head that having a Mac Book Pro would definitely give me the productivity boost that I so desperately require. Clearly, it will not. It’s not like my three other laptops isn’t good enough… sigh. If I sat down and analysed exactly why I think about a given item I’m confident it would sooner, rather than later, become obvious that I have no need for yet another gadget.

Overcoming the ‘When I’ problem

I’m not quite sure why I believe that these items would somehow make me stop procrastinate and get on with things. Maybe it’s related to some sort of fear for learning more about myself? Learning about my issues regarding self-discipline and self-worth?

Overcoming my ‘When I’ situation is tougher than it may sound. I’ve found much comfort (still am unfortunately) in pushing the real doing into the future waiting for the solution to arrive or magically appear. ‘When I’ is a combination I’ve been using for a long time but I’ve decided to attempt to eliminate this ‘tool’ from my procrastination arsenal.

The following items, listed in no particular order, I believe may be useful when attempting to overcome the ‘bad’ side of procrastination:

• Prioritization (efficient and useful procrastination)
• Questions, questions and questions! (Is this X really going to help me achieve my goals?)
• Honesty

It shouldn’t have to be necessary to revert back into the habit of ‘When I’ when using these tools. Procrastination can be good, if done appropriately… but one has to be careful not to confuse the good with the bad. Let’s see how it all works out. I guess becoming aware of the problem and acknowledging it is step one…

It recently struck me how incredibly afraid people are of the unknown, of doing something outside the norm. If you give even the slightest hint at doing something differently the response is almost always the same, uncomfortable squirming, a smirk or an immediate slur of defensive propaganda of why you’re clearly wrong. “Nooo, it doesn’t work that way, everyone knows that. I’ve tried it for years and it doesn’t work.” Notice how the last sentence infer personal knowledge and experience, but without substantiating the claim with an explanation. Always the same kind of empty nonsense.

I didn’t bother explaining my thoughts because it would have made little or no difference. While I must admit that I too have been on the “other” side of this type of conversation, I don’t think I ever responded with the same kind of refusal to learn something new. But as with everything else it takes practice and dedication to become a more open-minded person.If people never dare to question the known it’s no wonder why people use all sorts of self-medication to maintain “happiness” and contentedness. As soon as an unknown feeling surfaces we find a way to conveniently remove it. Either we do this by simply ignoring it, or having another bite of that tasty fatty burger or turn to our group of sheep (friends), comforted in the fact that they too are living the same life as you are.

If this is the instant reaction people have to the unknown, how can we expect to move society forward in a meaningful fashion? Would it even be possible, or is it a lost cause from the very beginning? Being an optimist I clearly believe it’s possible, but finding the right tools for the job is the difficult part.

Why?

Running from fear (by flickr/stuant63)

Few people give themselves time to assess the knowledge and wisdom that have been passed down from previous generations. More often than not we blindly accept what we’ve been told by parents, family and friends. Somewhere in this mess there is very likely room for genetic coding as well. It’s however not a bad thing to question what we’ve been taught, but it’s also equally foolish to assume that everything we’ve been told is bad. The kind of reaction I get from exposing some of my quirkiness could be considered a measure of how comfortable a person is with himself.

An interesting analogy can be drawn from innovation. True innovation is hard to come by because it requires a lot of effort and hard work. It’s much easier to wait for someone to do the necessary hard work and then copy it. Do you see what I mean?  True innovation represents a deeper understanding of oneself, which require a lot of work. But copying someone else’s behaviour or belief is much easier and requires little effort. Could it be that the human mind has evolved to into a copying machine because it’s more efficient? Fear is then used as the tool to discourage free thinking and adaptation.

In some regards we’re in control over evolution, but we also have to understand the power that social conditioning and fear can have on a person. Then consider this in combination with peer pressure and you have got yourself a potent combination to completely remove free thinking and instil conformity.

Conquering fear…

I’m not sure what made my own fear of the unknown slowly diminish. It certainly hasn’t always been like that. Looking back it has only gradually changed and it began with a simple question: What are the consequences of my actions? Overcoming fear of the unknown will hence, according to me, take time. I also can’t remember that I’ve consciously tried to remove my own fear, but it would seem as if it came with the package of questioning the known.

That actually kind of makes sense. If we question the known we indirectly open the doors to the unknown which I guess in some regards means accepting the unknown.

… to take control.

I’m not entirely sure about my conclusion but suffice to say, conquering fear of the unknown is nothing but empowering and can only lead to new discoveries of oneself. Question the known to conquer the unknown.

/ Christoffer