Avoiding the ‘When I…’ combination

Sep 27

I’m an expert at procrastination, although in later years I’ve become much better in recognising procrastination when I ‘see’ it. My very special combination of words usually was, and still sometimes is, ‘When I …’. This is a very dangerous combination of words because it removes control from myself and places it into an item, or someone else.

When I get this car I will finally be popular.

When I have one million in my bank account I will be happy.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t seem to work this way. I’m sure we all have these ideas with some alterations in the perceived solution. One of my personal favourites is how efficient I would be once I acquired two computer screens. Boy-oh-boy would I be productive. Finally would I be able to produce all those documents that I for so long had wanted to write, but been hampered by the limited computer desktop space.

Seriously, it’s NOT the desktop space that is the limiting factor. I have these ‘episodes’ quite often and they seem to slip past my procrastination radar all too often. Most recently I got it into my head that having a Mac Book Pro would definitely give me the productivity boost that I so desperately require. Clearly, it will not. It’s not like my three other laptops isn’t good enough… sigh. If I sat down and analysed exactly why I think about a given item I’m confident it would sooner, rather than later, become obvious that I have no need for yet another gadget.

Overcoming the ‘When I’ problem

I’m not quite sure why I believe that these items would somehow make me stop procrastinate and get on with things. Maybe it’s related to some sort of fear for learning more about myself? Learning about my issues regarding self-discipline and self-worth?

Overcoming my ‘When I’ situation is tougher than it may sound. I’ve found much comfort (still am unfortunately) in pushing the real doing into the future waiting for the solution to arrive or magically appear. ‘When I’ is a combination I’ve been using for a long time but I’ve decided to attempt to eliminate this ‘tool’ from my procrastination arsenal.

The following items, listed in no particular order, I believe may be useful when attempting to overcome the ‘bad’ side of procrastination:

  • Prioritization (efficient and useful procrastination)
  • Questions, questions and questions! (Is this X really going to help me achieve my goals?)
  • Honesty

It shouldn’t have to be necessary to revert back into the habit of ‘When I’ when using these tools. Procrastination can be good, if done appropriately… but one has to be careful not to confuse the good with the bad. Let’s see how it all works out. I guess becoming aware of the problem and acknowledging it is step one…

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