What Women Do That Men Don’t
There they are, smiling, happy while being pampered, taken care of and for once not the having to do the pampering. It’s their time, the one time a month where they are the centre of attention and they enjoy it. And why shouldn’t they?
What am I talking about? Well, women and their beauty salons of course. Each day when I go for lunch I walk past one of these places and today was the first time I actually thought about why women do what they do. These are my conclusions.
Women are…
… generally more compassionate, caring and thoughtful than men. I can only draw experience from my own situation. Johanna, my precioussssss, seem to always be one step a head of me. Whenever she goes to a store it’s more often an exception that she will not bring something back for me. She does this almost all the time. Yet when I go to the store a do it because it’s function derived from the lack of something in the house. We’re out of this and that, so I stop by the store and get it. Rarely does it cross my mind I should think outside the immediate need and sperhaps combine it with a little gift for Johanna.
Obviously this is only one thing of many that she does. At home she’s always the one to think of making little treats, or perhaps boil us some cups of tea and sit outside on the veranda enjoying a quiet moment of peace, tranquillity and us-time . The difference between her and I is that she does it to spend time with me, or more accurately, for US to spend time together. I seem to have some sort of attitude that my mere being and presence is enough. I realize now that I too must make an effort to show my appreciation for her. Not by carrying out some regular housework and expect her to love me for that. No, I also have to show my appreciation through means that are outside of the regular “pattern”, tokens… small gifts of appreciation.
What Men are forgetting…
… is that while we are taking their compassion and thoughtfulness for granted we must understand that they too, women that is, need the same affection returned from us. We shouldn’t be thinking that hoovering the floors is a token of appreciation for our beloved. It’s a frigging household chore… we should be doing that regardless, not as a way to state, or make explicit, our love.
Women want…
… to be appreciated and sometimes be the centre of attention. And why shouldn’t they? They take care of us everyday and I know myself take this for granted, although I am making an effort to show my appreciation, but I still have a long way to go before I’m on pair with Johanna. The hairdresser/beauty salon, it’s a way for a woman to get some well-deserved pampering and attention for their ever increasingly demanding men… it’s not all about “this is what women do”, it’s simply a distraction, a way to be … cared for.
It’s funny what thoughts can be conjured up when walking past a hairdresser…
… what Men Don’t Do!
I believe the reason for all the make up, cloths, beauty places and so forth is a result of the lack of attention they get in their own homes and we, the men, are partly to blame for this. Clearly it stretches somewhat beyond the home into media, social construction etc. but still, we need to take responsibility for our women. It takes so little, but can yield so much… a well-meaning long hug, a flower picked from a morning walk or why not plan a simple, but cozy evening at home. Buy a bottle of wine, attach a little card with a message of an evening of relaxation and no work. Cook, make the dinner and just pamper your woman until she’s happily purring away in your lap…
